Merry Christmas - 2017

azriel wrote:Take the day's newspaper & find things in it to talk about

Well, the local buses do provide a free newspaper...

malickfan wrote:Perhaps my beard is sexier than I thought  

It's actually turning out quite well I think, just trimmed it a bit, I will have to post an update in a few weeks...

Norc wrote:lick her face once u meet her. works wonders.

In England we prefer to hug or shake hands as a mode of greeting, you strange Nordics...

Though she has a very attractive face and I certainly wouldn't mind licking it should such an occasion ever arise...

Does she like Tolkien?

Mrs Figg wrote:Does she like Tolkien?

I don't think she's much of a reader unfortunately (not even sure if she's seen the movies...hmm...), but she loves Futurama and South Park like me

Maybe we should start a dating advice thread...

But that would mean un-norcing the Christmas thread!

halfwise wrote:But that would mean un-norcing the Christmas thread!

But then we could Norc the dating thread with Christmas gifs such is the forumshire way

If she doesn't like Tolkien I don't know if there's much of a future in it. That's okay for now, but just saying...

Forest Shepherd wrote:If she doesn't like Tolkien I don't know if there's much of a future in it. That's okay for now, but just saying...

Things to say to your date when you're a Tolkien fan:

malickfan wrote:

Mrs Figg wrote:Does she like Tolkien?

I don't think she's much of a reader unfortunately (not even sure if she's seen the movies...hmm...), but she loves Futurama and South Park like me

well, then educate her after a while then ofcourse.. don't spring all three movies and a huge book on her right away.. that might scare her away... and also, always accept the fact that she probably will like it in her own way, so don't get disappointet if she's not as a nerd as you are. i learned this the sad way.

Eldorion wrote:

Forest Shepherd wrote:If she doesn't like Tolkien I don't know if there's much of a future in it. That's okay for now, but just saying...

Things to say to your date when you're a Tolkien fan:

that actually might work with me... especially if you put on a gollum voice..

You've gotta shake your head to really get that good lip flapping sound in wrrrrrrrriggling.

Norc wrote:

Eldorion wrote:

Forest Shepherd wrote:If she doesn't like Tolkien I don't know if there's much of a future in it. That's okay for now, but just saying...

Things to say to your date when you're a Tolkien fan:

that actually might work with me... especially if you put on a gollum voice..

Forest Shepherd wrote:If she doesn't like Tolkien I don't know if there's much of a future in it. That's okay for now, but just saying...

If she likes The Hobbit films, I'm going to call off the whole thing

Eldorion wrote:

Forest Shepherd wrote:If she doesn't like Tolkien I don't know if there's much of a future in it. That's okay for now, but just saying...

Things to say to your date when you're a Tolkien fan:

I'm still not entirely sure if this a casual date or a date date, I just asked her if she wanted to hang out as friends and shes seems pretty keen, but I'm not going to make any stupid or sudden romantic moves as she's as inexperienced as me, I'll wait and see how it goes then talk to her properly afterwards, I'll be happy remaining friends and if we do decide to go down the romantic route I'm going to take things as slowly as she is comfortable with and it will be an entirely mutual decision, I will probably only be able to hang out at weekends though, so it probably makes sense to be careful and take things slowly.

(Of course, that's assuming she even wants to see me again, not actually nervous (well, a bit) just a bit baffled that I've landed myself in this situation after all these years, never really had a date casual or otherwise, though I have hung out with platonic female friends many times).

this is starting to remind me of a black mirror episode where a person is trying to pick up girls with a guy on his ear.. doesn't end well.

Norc wrote:this is starting to remind me of a black mirror episode where a person is trying to pick up girls with a guy on his ear.. doesn't end well.

Great show

And good idea to not go all-out romantic and crazy from the start - I've burned my fair share of cash doing just that, hopeless idiot that I am.

I think that sounds like a good mindset to have, Malick.

My kind-of-but-not really date with my recently met friend is tomorrow, and I'm kind-of-really a bit nervous (and excited), it's not a proper date but this is the first time I've ever done something like this with a girl I've known for such a short time, and certainly the first time for a long while I've hanged out with a 'friend' who has been giving me some of those hints....

The butterflies will have a field day with you tomorrow!

Forest Shepherd wrote:The butterflies will have a field day with you tomorrow!

So um, is it normal for a 'friend' to exchange about two dozen texts with you over two days discussing a simple meet up, end almost every text with a emoticon or smiley and then apologise for asking so many questions?  

We've known each for just under a month and have only met maybe five times previously in total, she told me she doesn't generally socialise that much so perhaps she is just nervous or excited that someone new is willing to talk to her about stuff? or just she just want to gauge my personality a bit better?

malickfan wrote:So um, is it normal for a 'friend' to exchange about two dozen texts with you over two days discussing a simple meet up, end almost every text with a emoticon or smiley and then apologise for asking so many questions?  

We've known each for just under a month and have only met maybe five times previously in total, she told me she doesn't generally socialise that much so perhaps she is just nervous or excited that someone new is willing to talk to her about stuff? or just she just want to gauge my personality a bit better?

I wouldn't read too much into that. Especially the emojis, don't read into the use of emojis (except if she's sending you kissy faces or hearts, then it's pretty clear what's going on). The worst thing you can do right now is over-complicate things, or jump the gun. Definitely be aware of her body language during the "date", though. But don't make it look like you're focusing on it. This is just something that comes with practice.

This is a good one. Love Roy Orbison.