Re: Merry Christmas - 2017

by malickfan Tue Jan 16, 2018 8:30 pm

Thanks for all the advice and well wishes guys Smile

Very early days for this, but I had a fantastic day on Sunday and both of us are keen to meet up again soon, scheduling may prove an issue unfortunately, but such is adult life...

by malickfan Tue Jan 16, 2018 8:36 pm

Eldorion wrote:I'm really glad to hear things went so well, Malick! Congrats and best wishes for things continuing to look up more often than not.

Cheers mate, and yeah I hope thing continue moving in a positive forward trajectory for me (I'm already in a much better place mentally than I was when I sent you that random PM last month) nice to start a new year on such a positive note for a change...

by bungobaggins Tue Jan 16, 2018 10:19 pm

You've got this. It's not as difficult as it may feel or seem. Everyone is human.

by malickfan Tue Jan 16, 2018 10:24 pm

Well we spent about 90 minutes texting each other earlier, so I think it's safe to assume she's either she's very bored tonight or likes me, perhaps both...

by halfwise Tue Jan 16, 2018 10:29 pm

What Bungo said. So long as you continue with the plan not to push things too fast things will flow normally.

by malickfan Tue Jan 16, 2018 10:34 pm

halfwise wrote:What Bungo said. So long as you continue with the plan not to push things too fast things will flow normally.

Yeah, I'm still too perplexed to have found myself in this position after all these years to think about rushing or pushing anything (assuming I could work up the courage that is) best to take things slow, aim and hope for the best but make sure to learn from my mistakes if I make any, rather than diving in at the deep end.

by azriel Wed Jan 17, 2018 3:50 pm

You'll do fine, you have the right attitude. You'll be a better man for it & find life might be an easier road to meander down, rather than shooting thru, side stepping & clinging to the shadowy bushes

by Mrs Figg Wed Jan 17, 2018 5:04 pm

just go with the flow and enjoy yourself. Very Happy

by malickfan Fri Jan 19, 2018 10:17 pm

Date no2 on Sunday Very Happy

We've been texting loads and are both on the same page, both slightly perplexed to have found ourselves 'dating' someone at last, both rather insecure/inexperienced...and mutually attracted to each other :brows:

but we've agreed to take things very very slowly, the main focus now is getting to know each other better and having fun, we can worry about the exact details later Nod

by malickfan Fri Jan 19, 2018 10:24 pm

I think I've hit the lucky jackpot here, a beautiful woman with a wonderful personality, every bit as geeky/inexperienced as me, and just as willing to take things slowly (it turns out she was just as confused on where we stood).

Evidently growing a beard was a good idea Laughing

by malickfan Sat Jan 20, 2018 1:36 pm

Is is a good or bad thing I'm currently watching youtube tutorials on how to kiss someone? Embarassed

never done it before, but I have a feeling it might happen tomorrow and I'm more than a little bit terrified, most people are terrible at it at first regardless, but at age 26 it's even more embarrassing and nerve-wracking Sofa

by halfwise Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:09 pm

Pretend her lips are candy. You're trying to work the flavor out of her lips. Then she'll respond, things will go weird and you're on your own from that point on. Just don't be passive once it starts.

by halfwise Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:24 pm

Oh, and slow build-up is key. You both have to wondering for at least 30 seconds if/when the other one will make the move through those final few inches. Do everything associated (eye-gazing, hair-stroking, etc) except the final motion. It's a game of chicken until one of you just can't stand the tension anymore.

by Mrs Figg Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:30 pm

No tongues. They are an acquired taste. silent

washing machine kissers are a no-no. Keep it sweet and short, don't dive in without having one toe on the shore, otherwise its hard to climb out. if you get my drift.

Pokey Tongue

by halfwise Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:53 pm

Good point. Tongue should just briefly flicker the lips with the tip at most. Anything more is graduate level and you both have to be committed.

by Forest Shepherd Sat Jan 20, 2018 6:44 pm

Kissing is one of those things that is simple and straightforward, but the more advice you get about it the more difficult it sounds! I think as long as you don't bump your teeth into hers you're fine.

by halfwise Sat Jan 20, 2018 6:51 pm

but hold the tongue in reserve.

by Forest Shepherd Sat Jan 20, 2018 8:35 pm

See? So confusing. What does that mean? Are we supposed to ball up our tongues in one corner of the mouth like we're marshaling for an invasion of Guadalcanal?

by bungobaggins Sat Jan 20, 2018 8:51 pm

That first kiss you really just wanna shove your tongue in her mouth. Assert dominance.

by bungobaggins Sat Jan 20, 2018 8:55 pm

halfwise wrote:Oh, and slow build-up is key. You both have to wondering for at least 30 seconds if/when the other one will make the move through those final few inches. Do everything associated (eye-gazing, hair-stroking, etc) except the final motion. It's a game of chicken until one of you just can't stand the tension anymore.

More like nowadays you both need to have a letter of consent drafted, both consult your legal counsel, both sign the document and have it publicly notarized, and then you can kiss. That's just kissing, sex is a little more complicated.

by Mrs Figg Sat Jan 20, 2018 10:20 pm

bungobaggins wrote:That first kiss you really just wanna shove your tongue in her mouth. Assert dominance.

just no.

by Mrs Figg Sat Jan 20, 2018 10:21 pm

Forest Shepherd wrote:See? So confusing. What does that mean? Are we supposed to ball up our tongues in one corner of the mouth like we're marshaling for an invasion of Guadalcanal?

no. Just don't wash the inside of her mouth as if its a cats bum hole.